無条件の愛情と、客観的に子どものことを見つめて必要な手を借りる冷静さと．．．両方とも大切ですね。
「せみ...って言えない、てみ...になっちゃう、どうしてだろう」
けんたが5歳の頃、こんなふうに打ち明けてきたことからはじまった言語聴覚士さんとの関係。小学生になっても、学習や学校生活などで楽しいこと、困っていることなど、けんたの気持ちをうまく聞きだしてくださり、頼もしい存在です。
ある日のこと。
「オレはクラスの中で’直され順番”2番なんだ！どうしていつも直されてばかりなんだ！1番はたくや君...算数が苦手、2番はオレ...漢字が苦手、3番は...」
息子が、そんなことを話しだしました。
オレだって、頑張っているのに．．．．。そう、けんたは漢字をなぞったり、お手本通りに書こうと思うと、余計はみ出たり、だんだん身体がこわばってきてしまうのです。
そんなけんたもこの春には2年生に進級。言語聴覚士さんは言います。
「けんたくんは学習のこと、お友達とのこと、大人が思っている以上に困っていることがあるのかもしれませんね。新しく担任になる先生にもそれを解ってもらい、いつも明るい元気なけんたくんでいてほしいですね」
たとえ月に一度の短い時間の相談でも、けんたや私にとって大きな励ましとなり、私たちにいつも寄り添ってくれているという安心感でここまで子育てができました。
里親として、そして母親として、いつも応援してくれる、大切な大切な方の１人です。
----- I believe it's equally important for us to give simple unconditional love to
children and to determine unperturbedly a timing when to borrow help (if necessary) for the children based upon our objective observation.
" I can't say Semi, it comes out Temi instead when I say it out"... Kenta confessed this at about age of five. This was the start of contacting a Speech-Language-Hearing Therapist (ST). Even
Kenta became a pupil in elementary school, he has been an reliable character trying to pull out Kenta's feelings efficiently...such as things he enjoys or suffers at
school.
One day...He went like this..."I am the second worst in my class for being corrected of errors by a teacher"... How come I'm being corrected all the time.! The worst of all is ---Kun. He is not good at Arithmetic, the second worst, which is me....having tough time in Kanji writing...The third worst coming next is....."
Our son started as above...He goes..."You know, I'm doing my best"... Yes, indeed he does trace Kanji characters many times, and tries to go with some sample writings...sometimes his writing sticks out excessively, and then his body becomes gradually tightened.
--------Kenta goes for second grader this spring. Our ST says like this....
"Kenta may have more worries than we adults think....concerning learning and/or how to keep up with friends. His next new homeroom class teacher should know about this, thus he could keep himself bright and vivid as ever... That's what I hope...."
Even it's just a short consulting session/time once a month, the ST's existence has been an encouragement to Kenta and me. With this sense of security coming along to us all the time, we could bring him up until this day.
He is one of the most valuable/precious people of ours in support of us always..As a foster-parent and/or a mother to Kenta, I do appreciate his presence.....